One thing that is not an unusual sight is to see a teenager that is angry for one reason or another. In some instances, it is alright for him to be angry, and some other times he is just acting his age and being immature. As a parent of an angry teen, there are some things you can do to make your anger situation for you and the teen you are concerned about more bearable. This article speaks about some of them.
Be loving
It is when you genuinely from the heart love your angry teen that you qualify to become one of the more influential people in his life. It is your love for him that leads you to show him your real and true concern for him, and what is wrong with him noticing that you care for him.
When he is going out, ask him where he is going, who he is going with, how long he is going to be, and whatever else you feel is important for you to know. Be strong and humble enough to risk having your feelings hurt. He may not want to give you this information, but by showing your concern he will eventually understand that you care.
Do this, your care and concern will be a huge source of confidence and motivation to him.
Respect
Not only do you want to love your teen, but you also want to show him that you respect him. If no one else respects him, he should know that he can depend on you to do it. If your teen has your respect, it is unlikely that he will let you down. He will learn to care about what you think too.
It is important that you also respect yourself if your respect for your teenager is going to mean much to him. This really means that no matter what your weaknesses or strengths may be, you have to always think respectfully about yourself. I will say that again...no matter what your weaknesses or strengths may be, you have to always think respectfully about yourself.
Voice control
Don't ever raise your voice at your teenager. When your voice goes up, it is a sign that you are out of control. Look at the results of shouting. It has never calmed things down. What it does is make the one you are shouting at angry and rebellious toward you.
Raising your voice sets you back from what you are really trying to do. - 31521
Be loving
It is when you genuinely from the heart love your angry teen that you qualify to become one of the more influential people in his life. It is your love for him that leads you to show him your real and true concern for him, and what is wrong with him noticing that you care for him.
When he is going out, ask him where he is going, who he is going with, how long he is going to be, and whatever else you feel is important for you to know. Be strong and humble enough to risk having your feelings hurt. He may not want to give you this information, but by showing your concern he will eventually understand that you care.
Do this, your care and concern will be a huge source of confidence and motivation to him.
Respect
Not only do you want to love your teen, but you also want to show him that you respect him. If no one else respects him, he should know that he can depend on you to do it. If your teen has your respect, it is unlikely that he will let you down. He will learn to care about what you think too.
It is important that you also respect yourself if your respect for your teenager is going to mean much to him. This really means that no matter what your weaknesses or strengths may be, you have to always think respectfully about yourself. I will say that again...no matter what your weaknesses or strengths may be, you have to always think respectfully about yourself.
Voice control
Don't ever raise your voice at your teenager. When your voice goes up, it is a sign that you are out of control. Look at the results of shouting. It has never calmed things down. What it does is make the one you are shouting at angry and rebellious toward you.
Raising your voice sets you back from what you are really trying to do. - 31521
About the Author:
Broyde McDonald writes to help you advance in your anger control efforts. Learn more about teen anger and Anger control classes.
