I recently went on a first date with a woman. Things seemed to be going pretty well but when I leaned into kiss her, she said she doesn't kiss on a first date. I am sure she is not the first or the last woman to say this.
What Does This Mean?
Fortunately for me, it meant nothing because shortly there after she did kiss me. However we did talk about it a little while later and her claim was that if a guy was willing to go out with her again just for a kiss then she knew he was genuinely interested. I do understand this and for me personally it was to some extent attractive because I knew she was likely not an easy girl. Also she quickly backed her claim up with the fact that most men will still have sex with a woman regardless of their interest.
While this is true, I explained to her that typically I would take a rejection of a first kiss as a bad sign. Because it does not always mean just that (no kiss on a first date), unfortunately it is not uncommon for women to lie to men. Look no farther than when women tell men "we are too good of friends to date." This comment is not entirely true, and is often instead said to avoid having to tell a guy that she is not interested.
I also told her that I am a firm believer in kissing on a first date. I figure if I am willing to go out with you on a second date then I am willing to kiss you. Additionally I have been told those crushing words from a woman "that we were too good of friends to date." I believe that commonly those words are said when a man waits to long.
In other words at one point the woman was interested in him and was willing to kiss him, however he simply waited to long. She either moved on, or was forced out of necessity to think of him just as a friend. I say out of necessity to protect her feelings.
In our society it is clear that men are required to initiate every thing, at least 98% of the time. Put yourself in her shoes, she has a crush on you however you keep dragging your feet on actually trying to kiss her. Thus, can you blame her for moving on and assuming you are just a friend after so long?
I encourage you to always kiss on a first date, especially if you are genuinely interested in her. It will avoid the possibility of you being classified as 'too good of a friend.' And it is fun to kiss girls! - 31521
What Does This Mean?
Fortunately for me, it meant nothing because shortly there after she did kiss me. However we did talk about it a little while later and her claim was that if a guy was willing to go out with her again just for a kiss then she knew he was genuinely interested. I do understand this and for me personally it was to some extent attractive because I knew she was likely not an easy girl. Also she quickly backed her claim up with the fact that most men will still have sex with a woman regardless of their interest.
While this is true, I explained to her that typically I would take a rejection of a first kiss as a bad sign. Because it does not always mean just that (no kiss on a first date), unfortunately it is not uncommon for women to lie to men. Look no farther than when women tell men "we are too good of friends to date." This comment is not entirely true, and is often instead said to avoid having to tell a guy that she is not interested.
I also told her that I am a firm believer in kissing on a first date. I figure if I am willing to go out with you on a second date then I am willing to kiss you. Additionally I have been told those crushing words from a woman "that we were too good of friends to date." I believe that commonly those words are said when a man waits to long.
In other words at one point the woman was interested in him and was willing to kiss him, however he simply waited to long. She either moved on, or was forced out of necessity to think of him just as a friend. I say out of necessity to protect her feelings.
In our society it is clear that men are required to initiate every thing, at least 98% of the time. Put yourself in her shoes, she has a crush on you however you keep dragging your feet on actually trying to kiss her. Thus, can you blame her for moving on and assuming you are just a friend after so long?
I encourage you to always kiss on a first date, especially if you are genuinely interested in her. It will avoid the possibility of you being classified as 'too good of a friend.' And it is fun to kiss girls! - 31521
