Let's face it, we are all caught up in the meat market mentality that "you can never make another first impression"; or "clothes make the man"; statements like these bely the fact that we are all intensely aware of how we come across to everyone else out there that crosses our path, and our self esteem or lack of it, is built on this awareness and the reactions we get from other people.
When we were kids, we never took classes or even thought about how to improve our self esteem---we didn't even know what self esteem meant---and making a good first impression or being a good listener or giving the other fellow the benefit of the doubt was just something you did to make yourself liked. That's what it all boils down to----acting and speaking with others in such a way that they like being around you, and when this dawns on you, you like having them around and it makes you feel good about yourself deep inside.
There are zillions of books in print molding away on bookshelves all over the world, telling us the ins and outs of how to improve our self esteem, but in reality all we need to know us the Golden Rule, and practice it. Good self esteem comes from feeling positively about your station in life and interacting with others in a positive way so they in turn feel the same about you. A negative self esteem is when you feel you have no purpose in life, and disdain the life you are living----quite often this feeling is accompanied by depression and listlessness, and who wants to spend much time around someone feeling like that.
People the world over can think of someone they have encountered in their lifetime that did not have a good outward appearance or was disfigured or downright ugly; and yet that person was comfortable with his lot in life, loved life and welcomed the company of other folks, and made them feel special when they were with that person. Soon, the outward appearance was overlooked, and the warm inner spirit of that person was revealed and you just knew that that person had good self esteem and reacted to others in a positive way so he was treated the same way in return.
So many of us dwell on outer appearances and what other people think of us or how we present ourselves to them, when what we need to be doing is building ourselves up in our own minds so we feel good about being who we are, and in turn react to others accordingly. The rest follows without much prodding: good things happen to those who treat others as they would want to be treated.
How to improve self esteem is a lesson that we are learning almost all of our lives on this planet. We start out as a blank slate as far as feelings about ourselves, and as we grow and interact with others, we begin to develop an image of ourselves as others react to us and whether or not they want to be around us; and this gradual self awareness of the actions of others begins to define how we feel about ourselves in a positive or negative way----in other words, our self esteem.
Success in life is measured by several different factors, and a positive self esteem is essential to reaching those goals that define success. One of the first things someone must do in order to progress upward and onward, is to learn how to improve his/her self esteem and then use that knowledge to make things happen for the better. Folks with a good self image and lots of positive self esteem go farther and faster than those that are held back by fear, insecurity, and feelings of ineptness or inability to perform because those folks see themselves as losers rather than winners. - 31521
When we were kids, we never took classes or even thought about how to improve our self esteem---we didn't even know what self esteem meant---and making a good first impression or being a good listener or giving the other fellow the benefit of the doubt was just something you did to make yourself liked. That's what it all boils down to----acting and speaking with others in such a way that they like being around you, and when this dawns on you, you like having them around and it makes you feel good about yourself deep inside.
There are zillions of books in print molding away on bookshelves all over the world, telling us the ins and outs of how to improve our self esteem, but in reality all we need to know us the Golden Rule, and practice it. Good self esteem comes from feeling positively about your station in life and interacting with others in a positive way so they in turn feel the same about you. A negative self esteem is when you feel you have no purpose in life, and disdain the life you are living----quite often this feeling is accompanied by depression and listlessness, and who wants to spend much time around someone feeling like that.
People the world over can think of someone they have encountered in their lifetime that did not have a good outward appearance or was disfigured or downright ugly; and yet that person was comfortable with his lot in life, loved life and welcomed the company of other folks, and made them feel special when they were with that person. Soon, the outward appearance was overlooked, and the warm inner spirit of that person was revealed and you just knew that that person had good self esteem and reacted to others in a positive way so he was treated the same way in return.
So many of us dwell on outer appearances and what other people think of us or how we present ourselves to them, when what we need to be doing is building ourselves up in our own minds so we feel good about being who we are, and in turn react to others accordingly. The rest follows without much prodding: good things happen to those who treat others as they would want to be treated.
How to improve self esteem is a lesson that we are learning almost all of our lives on this planet. We start out as a blank slate as far as feelings about ourselves, and as we grow and interact with others, we begin to develop an image of ourselves as others react to us and whether or not they want to be around us; and this gradual self awareness of the actions of others begins to define how we feel about ourselves in a positive or negative way----in other words, our self esteem.
Success in life is measured by several different factors, and a positive self esteem is essential to reaching those goals that define success. One of the first things someone must do in order to progress upward and onward, is to learn how to improve his/her self esteem and then use that knowledge to make things happen for the better. Folks with a good self image and lots of positive self esteem go farther and faster than those that are held back by fear, insecurity, and feelings of ineptness or inability to perform because those folks see themselves as losers rather than winners. - 31521
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