How to control anger...you would not like to have to count the many ways it can be done. You do not have the time to sit and listen to them all right now though. However that is not a problem. What you will see is that as you continue to look into this subject you will see new ways of controlling your anger that you had not seen before. And once you them you will be able to apply them to what you are going through.
For right now, we will take a quick look at four important things that other people are doing to have their anger level stay in a place where they can manage it.
The first thing you do is make sure that your point of view is understood. Many instances of uncontrolled anger come from the person who hold things inside them and do not make their wishes clear. Avoid doing this.
These people tend to have furious outbursts because they feel cheated. This is because they often accommodate others before themselves in order to keep the peace. It then follows that one day when they are tired of giving themselves that what should only be a small matter turns out to be the light weight that makes the entire load too heavy. As a result, they display anger that seems bigger than the actual situation. One way to control anger is to make sure that you are not being passive.
How to control anger...A second thing you can do to get your anger controlled is to get to know more and more about yourself. You want to be able to tell what you are feeling and thinking when you are starting to get mad. If you are able to get control when you are starting to get mad you will be able to control it better than if you were already boiling over with anger instead.
Know the situations that make you angry. Then all you need to do to keep anger controlled is to avoid these situations.
Third. When you are keeping your anger under control, it will help you to avoid the anger outburst if you find someone that you can talk to about the things that cause you to become angry.
When someone else is there who understands your point of view you will find that certain things do not make you respond as angrily as you did before. It is as if there is someone sharing your feelings and identifying with you. When you are not alone in a situation, it may help you to act better.
A fourth thing for you to do is to write about your anger. This is a powerful thing to do, and should not be underestimated.
With your irritations out on paper you can take an independent look at your circumstances. An independent look allows you the ability to see your problem as if you were only an observer. With an independent look it is as if you can see how to instruct another person on what to do. The only thing is that the person you will be advising is yourself. - 31521
For right now, we will take a quick look at four important things that other people are doing to have their anger level stay in a place where they can manage it.
The first thing you do is make sure that your point of view is understood. Many instances of uncontrolled anger come from the person who hold things inside them and do not make their wishes clear. Avoid doing this.
These people tend to have furious outbursts because they feel cheated. This is because they often accommodate others before themselves in order to keep the peace. It then follows that one day when they are tired of giving themselves that what should only be a small matter turns out to be the light weight that makes the entire load too heavy. As a result, they display anger that seems bigger than the actual situation. One way to control anger is to make sure that you are not being passive.
How to control anger...A second thing you can do to get your anger controlled is to get to know more and more about yourself. You want to be able to tell what you are feeling and thinking when you are starting to get mad. If you are able to get control when you are starting to get mad you will be able to control it better than if you were already boiling over with anger instead.
Know the situations that make you angry. Then all you need to do to keep anger controlled is to avoid these situations.
Third. When you are keeping your anger under control, it will help you to avoid the anger outburst if you find someone that you can talk to about the things that cause you to become angry.
When someone else is there who understands your point of view you will find that certain things do not make you respond as angrily as you did before. It is as if there is someone sharing your feelings and identifying with you. When you are not alone in a situation, it may help you to act better.
A fourth thing for you to do is to write about your anger. This is a powerful thing to do, and should not be underestimated.
With your irritations out on paper you can take an independent look at your circumstances. An independent look allows you the ability to see your problem as if you were only an observer. With an independent look it is as if you can see how to instruct another person on what to do. The only thing is that the person you will be advising is yourself. - 31521
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